A couple of months ago, I was on a date with a girl who was an extra in a Bollywood movie.

A little bit of context:

She’ a 6 feet tall Scandinavian girl with long blonde hair, very blue eyes, and very, very long legs.

Let’s just say; she stuck out like a shore thumb when she was walking around the city.

Anyway, at one point, there’s this guy who approached her and asked if she would like to be a part of a new movie. An actual Bollywood movie! He wanted her to play an Australian diving instructor.

She hesitated a little bit.

But, eventually, she gently said, “okay, sure.”

“Exactly what have I gotten myself into?” was her first thought.

But her next thought is fascinating and very relevant if you’re in a leadership position:

“…but what’s the worst that can happen? Worst case, I’ve got a great story to tell when I get home!”

Here’s my point:

If you want to change something in your life – the results in your business, your relationship, your health, etc. – you can attack this process in two different ways:

1. You can convince yourself that it’s going to be extremely difficult, annoying, and a pain in the butt.


2. Approach the situation like the girl I was dating: Have a positive focus, find the best possible way to solve it, and look at the problem as it is. Not worse than it is, but not better than it is.

Whatever choice you decide to make is always up to you.

But you ALWAYS have a choice.

And not making a choice is ALSO a choice.

The point is, in the end, it’s always up to you.

For example, all my coaching clients have also made the choice to change their situation.

They decided to contact me…talk about a possible strategy to reach their goals…and some of them decided to get my help personally.

I want to give you the same opportunity.

If you want to become the best possible leader you can be…influence your team to achieve bigger and better results…or handle any difficult conversation with ease, then my leadership coaching program might be a good fit for you.

Use the contact form here, and let’s start with a complimentary Strategy Session, and let’s see how I might be able to help you.


Kristian Thaulow

Two years ago, I was responsible for arranging a bachelor party for my best friend, who’s extremely afraid of heights.

So, as the great friend that I am, I obviously planned an activity that took place 160+ feet up in the air.

Specifically, an obstacle course suspended 164 feet up in the air.

And there’s actually an excellent leadership lesson (and life lesson in general) hidden in this experience.

Here’s what happened:

The first two to three obstacle courses we had to go through were, in hindsight, relatively simple. But, because we were suspended 160+ feet up in the air and looking down on the solid concrete floor and different shipping containers below us, just getting to the opposite side was a little harder than it normally would.

Anyway, at one point, I decided to try and overcome my innate fear.

So I started to lean out into my harness without holding on to anything.

Simply to overcome my fear.

And, it’s funny, after I did that, the rest of the obstacle course started to become relatively simple. Where some of the other guys were struggling to keep going because they didn’t want to let go of their ropes, I could pretty easily go through the different challenges because I didn’t have a problem with letting go.

Which brings me to the lesson I want to share with you:

In general, we only have two types of fears as an adult:

1) The fear we won’t be enough

2) The fear we won’t be loved

In this case of the obstacle course, the fear of not being enough was going through our nervous system. Why? Because, what if we didn’t have the physical or mental strength to complete the circuit.

But, since I decided to face my fear head-on and see for myself that I actually had everything I needed to complete the circuit, that fear more or less evaporated.

My point?

Everything in life is time and repetition.

If you want to lose weight, you need time and repetition to do the right things like training regularly and eating healthy 80% of the time. You don’t lose weight just because you’ve eaten one healthy meal or done one training session.

If you want more clients in your business, you need time and repetition to find those clients and show them how you’re their best possible option to solve whatever problem your business solves.

If you want to inspire and become a better leader, you need time and repetition to work on your leadership skills.

Moral of the story?

Whatever your goal is in life, business, or relationship, you need to master your inner psychology.

The best part?

In my book, The TRUST Method, you get a simple, step-by-step plan that shows you actually how to do this. Plus, how to inspire anyone to take action…how to be more efficient…subtle leadership mistakes you MUST avoid…and much, much more.

You can check everything you get via the link, here:


Kristian Thaulow

Today I’d like to share a business strategy and leadership mindset with you.

It’s called the “Polarity of Leadership.”

Let me give you an example to explain what it is and how to use it in your current situation:

Think back to when you were a kid.

You’ve probably tried the classic experiment with the two magnets. The one where you placed the North and South pole of the magnets together. What would happen? They would stick, right? But what happened when you placed the same poles together?

The magnets would repel each other.

So, what’s the underlying lesson here?

For example, look at the success of Disney.

Their success would never have happened without Walt Disney’s vision and creativity.

However, if he didn’t have his brother, Roy Disney, to handle all the financial and strategic decisions, Disney would never have become the financial juggernaut it is today.

Disney’s success is the perfect example of the Polarity of Leadership.

And it’s not just Disney.

In fact, you can find examples of the Polarity of Leadership in everything—even in parenting.

On the one hand, you can be too strict with your kids. On the other hand, you can be too loose.

You run into the same polarity when you are leading your team.

For example:

One polarity is being too close to your team.

The opposite polarity is being too emotionally distant.

Let’s be honest, very few people want to follow a cold and calculating robot — unless you’re a diehard “Westworld” fanatic, I guess. They want someone to lead and appreciate them as human beings. Being a leader doesn’t mean you’re supposed to be their friend. You need that professional distance. But if you never show any emotion, people won’t trust you, and they won’t follow you.

The Polarity of Leadership is just one of the dozens of little-known tips and strategies I talk about in my book, “The TRUST Method.”

If you’re curious and want to take your leadership skills and your business results to the next level, my book is a great place to start.

Here’s the link:


Kristian Thaulow

A couple of weeks ago, I read a quote I hadn’t seen in a while.

And, there’s a great similarity between this quote and any type of success you’re hoping to achieve — whether in your business, personal relationship, personal goals, etc.

Here’s the quote:

“None can destroy iron, but its own rust can! Likewise, none can destroy a person, but its own mindset can!” – Ratan Tata

Think about it:

Your success as a leader, or a manager, ultimately comes down to one thing:

Your ability to control your inner psychology. Your mindset, depending on which term you prefer.

It’s all about mental mastery.

Question is… how do you achieve this “mental mastery”?

How do you build an unbreakable inner psychology and mental strength that will help you push through every challenge and setback you face?

Let me explain:

Imagine you’re put in an extremely stressful life-threatening situation. You’ve never had any training. You’re not at all prepared. And you have absolutely no clue about what to do.

How do you think your body is going to react?

You’re probably panting, sweating, and you’re nervous.

Now, let’s use that same example. But instead of never having done any type of training, you’ve trained for this exact situation hundreds, maybe thousands of times in the past.

How do you think you’re going to react in this scenario?

Calm. Collected. Focused. It’s knowing what to do. You are getting the job done and not being swept away by fear. It’s still a dangerous situation, but since you’ve done the work up-front, you know that you’re able to solve this problem.

And not only that, you’re focused on controlling the things that are actually within your sphere of control.

Again, the difference lies in the preparation and the mindset of focusing on what you’re able to control.

And it’s this difference in preparation and mindset that separates the best of the best from the mediocre leaders.

Your inner psychology truly is the bottleneck of all your results and success in every area of your life.

The bottom line?

The bottleneck of any business is the mental mastery of its leader.

You’re welcome to disagree (it isn’t against the law to be wrong).

Which brings me to the rub of all this:

For example, in my book “The TRUST Method,” I’ve identified three critical leadership mindset shifts that are going to take your business from good to amazing.

I reveal everything on pages 32-36.

If you’re interested in taking your leadership skills to the next level, my book might be an excellent place to explore. You can read all about the book via the almighty link, here:


Kristian Thaulow

Here’s something you didn’t know.

I used to be the world champ when it came to setting New Year’s resolutions. I say “world champ,” but what I really mean is failing miserably a few weeks later.

However, after hundreds of failed attempts, I decided that this “strategy” probably wasn’t the best type of accomplishment to put on my resume.

Let me ask you: How many times have you decided to make a change, for example during New Years, only to find yourself right back into your old habits and routines?

Don’t feel bad. This happens to most of us. In fact, according to some research over 80% of people fail their New Year’s resolutions before they even hit February.

So what’s the difference between people who fail year after year with their New Year’s resolution, or goals in general, versus the most successful people?

Here’s the truth.

The most successful people are playing a completely different game than most other people. New Year’s resolutions or stupid pointless tactics are not even on their radar. Where most people bring a water pistol to the battlefield — the most successful people bring a bulletproof tank.

I’m here to tell you that you can create the life and business you want. But you’ll have to rewire yourself into the type of person who’s worthy of that success.

Let me explain.

The #1 roadblock people face when trying to achieve… anything

When people try to achieve any type of goal (e.g., losing weight, starting a new business, improving their relationship) most often, they’re looking at their goals in reverse.

Here’s what I mean:

People have a peculiar tendency to set these arbitrary goals without understanding their inner psychology before they set off to find a motivating goal. I use the word “motivating” with the highest amount of sarcasm because motivation, in and of itself, is a terrible focus. Why? Because motivation is not what creates lasting change, it’s only what gets you started.

You can be the world’s most motivated person, but, if you don’t have an inner drive to do what you set out to do that motivation will eventually evaporate, and you’ll be right back into your old habits.

If you don’t understand the psychology behind goal setting, you are inevitably setting yourself up for failure.

Here’s where the problems start to surface.

In general, people fixate on the tactical elements of “how to” achieve their goal. You can call it strategy, mission, or vision, but whatever you decide to call it the problem doesn’t change. If you don’t change your fundamental way of who you are, you’re going to self-sabotage your progress at some point.

Think about it: Imagine I’m 50 lbs overweight. Then, I’m 50 lbs overweight for a reason. It’s because of my habits, beliefs, and values that I’m where I am right now. If I’m EVER going to change my situation, I need to change who I am.

The brutal truth is that the person you are now will never be able to achieve the goal you’ve set. If you want to accomplish anything new, you have to rewire your brain to become what I call a new “persona.”

Your current persona is everything which makes you… you. It’s your habits, your way of thinking, your daily routines, your beliefs, your values, etc. If you don’t change your current persona and create a new persona, a version 2.0, you won’t be successful.

And to do that, you need a compelling vision, mission, and strong guiding principles to help you guide your decisions.

What’s your guiding mission, vision, and principles?

Look at this statistic.

300 million people around the world are suffering from depression.

Plus, even those people who, on the outside, look successful can suffer from depression too. So even if we might achieve the type of “success” which society defines as success, at the end of the day, it’s worthless if we don’t feel fulfilled.

Setting and achieving goals is essential to create a compelling future and build confidence. But, goals without fulfillment are meaningless.

Be honest: How many times have you achieved a goal — you became “successful” — but you ended up feeling like you were missing something? “Is this it?” is a common feeling people have when achieving something they’ve pursued for a long time.

My goal for 2019 is to help people like you realize your potential. And help you achieve the goals you set out to do. Whether you own your business, work for someone else, or are the CEO of a Fortune 500 company here’s my commitment to you:

You’ll only get battle-tested and actionable strategies that you can use in your business and life when you read my material. No fluff. No B.S. Only the #1 thing that matters: Results.

Question is this: Where do we start?

Everything starts by having a compelling vision, mission, and principles to guide you towards your ultimate version of yourself, your business and your life. Let me show you how you do it:

What the movie Coach Carter taught me about success

I love this quote: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.”

I remember hearing this quote from the movie ‘Coach Carter.’ (You can watch the clip below.)

The quote is a variant from the book ‘A Return to Love’ by Marianne Williamson

This quote is so powerful and so accurate because every one of us has more potential than we give ourselves credit for. We are powerful beyond measure. Unfortunately, people are putting a massive ceiling on their success because of one thing:


But at its core fear is just a story we tell ourselves.

You’re not bound by the stories from your past.

You’re not bound by the stories you believe will or will not happen in the future.

You’re only bound by the decisions you make in this moment — nothing else.

Your future is created today, in this moment, in this second. And the truth is, you can engineer a new compelling future for your business, your relationship, and your life. But it all starts with deciding that 2019 will be the year that you pursue complete fulfillment.

How to make 2019 your most fulling year ever

Here’s my challenge to you for 2019. I want you to do these 3 things:

Step #1: Set aside 1 hour this week. Use that time to create your compelling vision, mission, and your principles that will help you achieve your vision.

If you already work in a company which has its own vision, mission, and principles, that’s fine. If that’s the case, start to create a compelling vision to your own life.

Ask yourself:

Vision: Where do you want to go

Mission: How do you plan to get there?

Principles: What are the fundamental beliefs your philosophy and map of the world are built on?

A great example of guiding principles are Amazon’s 14 leadership principle. These 14 principles guide every single decision Amazon makes. People can have the best idea ever, but, if that idea doesn’t serve their leadership principles, the idea will get dropped.

They’re a great example of how to create powerful guiding principles to use as inspiration. I’ve outlined the 14 principles below, but if you’re curious, you can read a detailed description of each principle on Amazon’s website here.

Amazon’s 14 leadership principles:

  1. Customer Obsession
  2. Ownership
  3. Invent and Simplify
  4. Are Right, A Lot
  5. Learn and Be Curious
  6. Hire and Develop the Best
  7. Insist on the Highest Standards
  8. Think Big
  9. Bias for Action
  10. Frugality
  11. Earn Trust
  12. Dive Deep
  13. Have Backbone; Disagree and Commit
  14. Deliver Results

Step #2: Instead of adding more things to your life, focus on eliminating the stuff that doesn’t support your new compelling future. Be ruthless. Focus on removing everything which does not contribute genuine value to your life and business.

Step #3: Finally, the most critical step: Put all this in your calendar, so you remember to focus on it every day. There really is no excuse. You have to stay focused on your vision.

Fulfillment doesn’t happen by chance or luck.

Fulfillment happens by design and relentless focus.

“Don’t be defined by someone else’s standards, have your own definition of success.” Duke Matlock

What if you could leapfrog your competition and effortlessly create a compelling vision and mission for your team?

What if you could retain your best A players and create engaged and empowered team members?

I’ve created a FREE case-study where you’ll discover the “Hidden Leverage Blueprint” that will increase your profitability by 6 or multiple 7 figures.

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I have a confession to make…

I’ve become the embodiment of a massive book nerd.

I went from never reading a single book to reading 50+ books every single year. And it’s not just me.

Some of the world’s top CEOs and executives read 4-5 books per month.

So today, I thought it would be a perfect opportunity to share some of my all-time favorite books with you.

To make the list easy to read I’ve divided all the books into 3 categories, so you can easily find the books you want to read:

I’ve also included a short description of each book, as well as an Amazon link to buy it. Note: There are no affiliate links in this post, so I don’t earn any commission from of recommending the books to you — other than you’ll have more success in business and life.

Personal development

1. The Obstacle is the Way – The Ancient Art of Turning Adversity to Advantage by Ryan Holiday

This book draws on the ancient Greek philosophy, “Stoicism.” Marcus Aurelius, Roman Emperor, said this almost 2,000 years ago: “What stands in the way becomes the way.” The book shows you how some of the world’s most successful people encountered difficult and almost impossible situations. And why their success was less about their intelligence, their talent or luck, but more about how they chose to handle stressful situations.

Buy it here

2. The Power Of Now – A Guide To Spiritual Enlightenment Of Eckhart Tolle

This is probably THE BOOK to read if you want to discover how to live more in the present and be present in everything you do. With that said, you need to be very open to the slightly more spiritual element in it — spiritual, not religious. It can be a bit “heavy” in some places, but once you pull out the essence of it, it’s a really interesting and thoughtful read.

Buy it here

3. The Way of the Seal – Think Like an Elite Warrior to Lead and Succeed by Mark Divine

The book was written by former Navy SEAL, Mark Divine. He dives into how you build true mental toughness. The book has different exercises to help you turn the techniques into a regular part of your everyday life. Don’t let the title scare you away. The book is packed with practical techniques and philosophies that’ll make you more focused and more mentally strong.

Buy it here

4. Unbeatable Mind – Forge Resiliency and Mental Toughness to Succeed at an Elite Level by Mark Divine

Yes, one more book from Mark Divine. The difference between “Unbeatable Mind” and “Way of the SEAL” is that UM focuses more on the mental toughness aspect. Look at the description: “The book teaches you to cast out your fear, overcome negativity and connect with a deeper and increased sensitivity to what is happening around you. You want to wipe out the emotional blockades and become the leader you know you were created to be. “

Buy it here

5. The 5 Second Rule – The Surprisingly Simple Way to Live, Love, and Speak With Courage by Mel Robbins

The book gives you an interesting technique that helps you break the different patterns which keep you from doing the things you want. The book has a ton of great stories, examples and a solid tool you can use.

Mel Robbins also has a great TEDx Talk. It’s been seen over 12 million times! It’s amazing.

Buy it here

6. Extreme Ownership – How U.S. Navy Seals Lead and Win by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

This book… This book is nothing short of amazing! Since I bought it last year, I’ve been through it 5+ times. Whether you’re the CEO, a manager, even if you’re a parent you can use the principles from this book. This is by far my favorite book out of the hundreds of books I’ve read. The audiobook read by the authors is probably one of the best ones, too.

Buy it here

7. Awaken the Giant Within – How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny by Anthony Robbins

If you haven’t heard about Tony Robbins you’re in for a treat. Tony is known as “the father of the coaching industry.” He has personally helped people like Bill Clinton, Oprah Winfrey and Nelson Mandela! If there were no Tony Robbins, I wouldn’t be here either. Tony is definitely one of my most important mentors.

Buy it here

8. 59 Seconds – Think a little, change a lot by Richard Wiseman

Here’s something you might not know: A lot of the self-help industry “guru” uses different examples of studies to make their point. But, no matter how interesting they are, most of them never existed. This book takes a critical view of the self-help industry and instead gives you some ultra-specific ways to get more motivated, enjoy your life and much more.

Buy it here


9. The Psychology of Winning: Ten Qualities of a Total Winner by Denis Waitley

Denis Waitley studied the different qualities (mindset, thoughts, focus, etc.) world’s top athletes and business people have compared to others who struggle through life. It gives you a clear picture of what you can do to overcome the difficult times that life will inevitably throw at us.

Buy it here

10. The Power of Habit – Why We Do What We Do In Life and Business by Charles Duhigg

If you’ve ever struggled with a bad habit and don’t know how to get rid of it… read this book. This is the by far the best book about how to take control of your habits. You discover why we have them, how they’re created, and more importantly: How you change them.

Buy it here

11. The Checklist Manifesto – How To Get Things Right by Atul Gawande

Here’s a universal truth: A checklist can save your life (just ask any pilot). Atul Gawande, surgeon and New York Times bestselling author, gives you an insight into how to use checklists to streamline all aspects of your life and business.

Buy it here

12. Influence – The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini

This book is a mastodont of a book. “Influence” is the book that thousands of other books refer to when it comes to understanding human psychology. There are decades worth of research boiled down to a few critical principles that will help you understand the science of influence and how you can influence others and yourself.

Buy it here

13. Never Split the Difference: Negotiating As If Your Life Depended On It by Chris Voss

I LOVE this book! If you’ve ever struggled with negotiation, or if you just want to take your negotiation skills to the next level, you should read this book. Chris Voss was the international hostage negotiator for the FBI. He’s taken his vast experience and boiled it down to step-by-step principles you can use today in ANY negotiation.

Buy it here


14. Creating Magic: 1 0 Common Sense Leadership Strategies from a Life at Disney by Lee Cockerell

Lee Cockerell shares the leadership principles he discovered during his time with Walt Disney World Resort – a multibillion-dollar company. This sentence pretty much sums up this amazing book: “It’s not the magic that makes it work; it’s the way we work that makes it magic.”

Buy it here

15. It’s Your Ship: Management Techniques from the Best Damn Ship in the Navy by D. Michael Abrashoff

Leadership and management are difficult in any business. But management in a rigid, top-down hierarchy like the US Navy is something else. Yet, Abrashoff still managed to take the USS Benfold, the worst-performing ship in the navy, and transform it into the “best damn ship in the navy.” The book is an excellent practical guide that will turn you into an even better leader.

Buy it here

16. The TRUST Method: 10 Leadership Strategies That Build Genuine Trust and Influence Anyone to Take Action

Ahh yes, by far my most FAVORITE book on this list. (Hey, it’s my list, there should be some benefits, right?).  In the book, you’ll discover EVERYTHING you need to know about how to build genuine trust and influence anyone to take action. You’ll get 10 modules in a hyper-specific, step-by-step program which holds nothing back on the most effective leadership principles.

Buy it here


17. Ender’s Game by Orson Scott Card

The primary reason I read “Ender’s Game” was because that it’s one of Mark Zuckerberg’s favorite books. Fortunately, I was more than pleasantly surprised by the exciting story of Ender and his development in the military as a child. If you like science fiction books, this is a great read.

Buy it here

18. The Alchemist: A Fable About Following Your Dream by Paulo Coelho

The title says it all: The Alchemist is a story of having the courage to pursue your dreams. The book centers on the boy, Santiago, a shepherd who dreams of traveling the world and its treasures. The book has sold over 65 million copies and holds a Guinness World Record for the most translated book by a living author.

Buy it here

19. Way of the Peaceful Warrior – A Book That Changes Lives by Dan Millman

Honestly, I usually read this book twice a year. The book is based on Dan Millman’s real experiences with his mentor “Socrates.” It has great life lessons, stories and philosophies that you can directly implement into your own life.

Buy it here

20. The One Thing – The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results by Gary Keller

Most of us probably know the feeling of being overwhelmed by all the different things we want to achieve — losing weight, growing our business, getting a new car. “The One Thing” takes the complete opposite approach. You learn how to cut through the noise, achieve better results in less time with less stress… just by focusing on one thing: The most important thing.

Buy it here

21. Tools of Titans – The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers by Timothy Ferriss

In this book, Tim Ferriss took over 200 podcast episodes — with people like Jamie Foxx, Arnold Schwarzenegger — and boiled them down to the biggest insights and into some simple tools you can use to become the best version of yourself.

Buy it here

22. The 4-Hour Workweek – Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich of Timothy Ferriss

The last book on the list and another book by Tim Ferriss and a modern classic. This book is for you if you want to live life on your terms (i.e. more time between your hands) and this book shows you exactly how to do it.

Buy it here

What books do you recommend?

Honestly, all these books can change your life. So here is my personal recommendation to you:

Don’t debate with yourself whether to buy a book or not. Buy the book no matter what. If you only get one new idea or new insight from the book, it could potentially change your life and business. At that point, it’s already worth a lot more than the few dollars you invested in it.

Now I would like to hear from you.

Have you read some of the books from the list? What was your biggest insights from reading it and why? What books would you like to add to the list and recommend?

I look forward to reading your response.